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Why women always put themselves last is a question worth asking. Maybe, when you read this letter, you are in the kitchen cooking your family’s favorite vegetable, ironing your daughter’s clothes, and at the same time planning what vegetable to make that your family will like. You are always busy fulfilling the needs of family and relatives. When you go to the market to buy vegetables, you buy your family’s favorite fruit, but what about your own? What a nice bag. I haven’t bought a bag in a year. Can I get one? Brother, how much is this bag? Rs. 1500 The dress my daughter wanted will come in Rs.1500 or My son also needs shoes, so I’ll take them later. You never calculate when shopping for your family. Clothes for your children, toys, things your husband needs, things you need for home decoration, you easily spend on all these. But when it comes to buying something for yourself, you stop and think, why? Why do you stop and think I don’t need it now, why?
Why do we always put ourselves last?
Does he like it? Why do you even think he likes it or not? Why do you think that this money will be used less for other work tomorrow? Why do you think I already have it, I’ll take it later? How many times have you said these sentences to yourself? How many times have you killed your desire? How many times have you truly hurt your heart? How many times have you thought about others and not thought about yourself? Over the years, you have learned to postpone your desires things you have learned from your mother? you have long put the happiness of your husband, children above your own happiness. Will you be happy if your daughter learns the same tomorrow? You remember yourself only after all the needs of the family are met. But in most cases, that “later” never comes, have you noticed? How many times have you given up on a favorite bag? Did you forget when you were little you used to cry to your father for the collection of the bag. There was a bag of every color, a bag of every new design. This is why women always put themselves last. Have you ever thought about yourself, have you noticed the me inside me?
The example we set for the next generation
This is exactly why women always put themselves last in their own home. You are also a member of the same house, you also have desires. Your needs are also necessary, why do those needs have little value? Your desires are also important, aren’t they? Our society has taught women sacrifice, responsibility, and living for their families, but they have been forced to live for themselves. This is why women always put themselves last. Why should only women be dedicated to sacrifice and penance? Your mother taught you that, you learn that. And now your daughter will also Learn the same thing. Your dream of a bag collection was shattered. You’ve started thinking about others before yourself in everything. Now there’s no room for yourself. But can you throw the collection of your daughter’s bags? Why don’t you understand that choosing something good for yourself, for your own happiness, is not Selfish. Prioritizing yourself does not mean ignoring the happiness of your love one. Sometimes when you choose something you love for yourself, it’s not just a thing. It’s a gift you give yourself, a message – “I’m important too.”
Yours need matter too
Understanding why women always put themselves last starts with the way we were raised. Maybe you have suppressed your desires for many years or learned to suppress them. Maybe you have forgotten to listen to your own heart amidst the needs of everyone else or you have not paid attention to what you are saying. But you are not just someone’s mother, wife, daughter or daughter-in-law. You are also a person with your own identity. Are you trying to kill that or have you killed it? And that childhood that you have hidden inside you sometimes deserves something good, which you are taking away from yourself. Women always put themselves last even whey they are exhausted. You do so much for others every day that you have started to consider your fatigue normal. You probably can’t even count how many times you have lost your smile while trying to bring a smile to others’ faces. So today I want to tell you a little something. If ever your mind tries to choose something for you, think twice before you stop it. Ask yourself Am I not worthy of this?” The answer will always be the same. Yes, you are eligible. You deserve to give yourself as much love as you give your family. You deserve to take care of yourself as you take care of others. If you help others fulfill their dreams, you deserve to have your own little joys honored.
A gentle reminder for you
Women always put themselves last their whole life, you should live for yourself sometimes. So, dear you, this is the right time, remove yourself from the last list and put yourself first. Listen to your heart. Give yourself something good. Because you have earned it. And remember Choosing yourself is never selfish. Women always put themselves last – but that ends today. Loving yourself is necessary and essential. With love and respect, choose “me” within you.
Reconnecting With Yourself
You can reconnect yourself with the small things you have given up. You know that you gave up not for others but for yourself, but you have to think for yourself too, right? Okay, while remembering everyone, don’t forget yourself? Because women always put themselves last and forget their own needs. Women always put themselves last, but not anymore. Now, today, let’s go on a date and buy a bag from the 7 bags that you have kept in your favorite. Today, take a little time for yourself. It’s late, but it’s never too late to connect with yourself. Stop for a moment and think about happiness. How long has it been since you forgot? How long has it been since you cooked your favorite bitter gourd in your kitchen? Tell me, how long has it been since you saved for yourself? Why does sacrificing your happiness bring you so much happiness? You don’t have to do big things for yourself. How much joy do you get when you do small things for yourself? You never failed to fulfill your responsibilities as a mother. You have always been good as a daughter, daughter-in-law, wife, but have you been good to yourself? Have you ever tried to be good to yourself? When you were little, sharing chocolate with your brother seems like a sacrifice to you? Instead, your mother gave your brother another chocolate, but she never taught you to sacrifice your own happiness, your own rights, but you never forgot what your mother taught you. Everyone sees you living, everyone sees you smiling, but only you see that you are happy, that you have given up. Reconnecting with that inner girl is not about becoming someone new, but about returning to someone you left behind. It is about giving yourself permission to exist beyond responsibility, beyond duty, beyond sacrifice. And in doing so, you slowly begin to realize that choosing yourself was never a mistake—it was something you were always allowed to do. You have not done anything wrong, you have just forgotten yourself. Now remember yourself – stop asking why women always put themselves last, and start choosing yourself. Love yourself.
What about you ?
When was the last time you stopped letting ‘why women always put themselves last’ be your story? Share your experience in the comments.
